However two people meet, whether it is an online gay dating site, corner cafe or through mutual friends, the first date is rarely a comfortable experience for either participant. People seem to put a lot of pressure on themselves to be at their best in a situation that is unnatural for almost anyone. When the possibility of romance is looming, conducting oneself in a cool and collected manner may be difficult. By keeping a few simple rules in mind, one can keep their wits about them.

1.       Remember that no matter how good looking or intelligent your date may be, they are experiencing some nerves as well. It might even help to verbally express your anxiety. Bringing these uneasy feelings out in the open may break the first date ice and may even get a laugh and ease the tension for both parties.

2.       Do not bring up your ex-girlfriend, boyfriend or domestic partner. This advice is repeated over and over because it just makes sense.

3.       Try to steer conversations away from religion and politics. These topics are much too deep for a first date and should be reserved for several dates in to a relationship. These topics are usually lightening rods and can cause either party to judge the other before really getting to know them.

4.       Ask your date about him or herself, and really listen to the answers. Not only is this a great way to learn about your date but it also lets your date know that you are a good listener. Showing that you are interested in them can be a major turn-on.